A biblical reading of fatherhood

Catholic News Service
In his Letter to the Ephesians, St. Paul said that he knelt “before the Father from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named” (Eph 3:14-15).
All human fathers find the source and model of their vocation in our heavenly Father. They are called, like every person, to “be perfect, just as your heavenly Father is perfect” (Mt 5:48).
No father can live this calling out completely on this side of heaven. But with the help of God’s grace, they can improve in their life of love and service to their families from day to day.
The question is, Do they cooperate with God’s grace or turn away from it?
The Bible gives us examples of what can happen in both instances.
The account in Genesis of Adam and Eve’s fall from grace, in what Catholic tradition has called original sin, is immediately followed by the story of Cain and Abel, their two sons. In a fit of anger and dejection, Cain killed Abel.
Before their sin, Adam and Eve had more than enough of God’s grace to live out their calling as spouses and parents in perfect harmony just as God had planned.
But they rejected that grace in their choice to sin. Division and hardship came in its place. One of the first of the continuing effects of original sin was seen in Cain striking down Abel.
All of us were born into the brokenness of original sin. Adam and Eve took it on by choice. Parents experience the sad effects of their own imperfections in their children in many ways.
Adam and Eve saw this in the murder of Abel by Cain, the devastation of which has been dramatically portrayed by many artists over the centuries.
In the second century, St. Irenaeus described Mary as the “new Eve,” undoing by her “yes” to God what was done in Eve’s “no.”
If Mary was the new Eve, St. Joseph can in a sense be considered the new Adam
Unlike Adam, who rejected God’s commands to him, Joseph is described as being “a righteous man,” one who obeys God’s law as given through Moses (Mt 1:19)
And when God gave Joseph specific commands through angels, first to accept Mary as his wife, then to take her and the Christ Child into Egypt and finally to return with them to Israel, he is portrayed in all three moments as instantly obeying.
Joseph’s faithfulness to his calling of caring for the Holy Family continued in the lie he shared with them in Nazareth.
The example of disobedience in Adam is, thus, reversed in the example of obedience given in St. Joseph.
Our heavenly Father gives all human fathers responsibility for their children. This has been seen in many cultures as an exalted position of authority.
But fathers who are also disciples of Christ lead their children to God most effectively by humbly following the example of St. Joseph in being faithful to God’s will.
           (Gallagher reports for The Criterion, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Indianapolis.)
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“The Eight Beatitudes are the provocative standard by which we measure every other vision of what fatherhood entails,” writes Greg Popcak in his book “BeDADitudes: 8 Ways to Be an Awesome Dad.”
“When we practice the beatitudes in our fathering efforts, we seek to attain the utmost fullness of fatherhood by striving to become transparent, so that when our wives and children look at us, they see God’s own loving face looking back at them,” Popcak says.
In an article featured on the For Your Marriage website, Popcak discusses how to apply the beatitudes to the roles of father and husband:
— Blessed are the dads who are poor in spirit. “Seek to be a father after the Father’s own heart.”
— Blessed are the dads who mourn. “Empathize with you family’s tears, fears and struggles.”
— Blessed are the dads who are meek. “Cultivate the humble strength of a listening heart.”
— Blessed are the dads who hunger and thirst for righteousness. “Awesome dads are on a mission from God. Live for him. Lead your family to him.”
— Blessed are the dads who are merciful. “Be a loving mentor in your home.”
— Blessed are the dads who are pure in heart. “Cherish the treasure of your wife and children.”
— Blessed are the dads who are peacemakers. “Keep your house in order. Prioritize your family. Protect the heart of your home.”
— Blessed are the dads who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness. “The world will try to undermine your effort to be an awesome dad. Be one anyway.”
Read more at: http://www.foryourmarriage.org/the-bedaditudes-8-ways-to-be-an-awesome-dad/